April 9, 2014 § 1 Comment
So we had a very busy day full of appointments for Arianna.
My husband and I didn’t go to work so we had a chance to sit and talk before our appointments. One of the things we talked about was that we needed to “stay on our toes” and prepare for the blindside.
As special needs parents we have been in situations we weren’t anticipating many times. When we don’t emotionally prepare ourselves for these moments and they happen it feels as if we’ve gotten sucker punched in the stomach. We are savy now though and we have become survival based realists who are always anticipating what could go wrong. When I say survival I mean emotionally because there is nothing like the blindside to send us into an emotional black hole. This goes for medical and educational settings – we have had “situations” in both settings.
Our appointments today went well, I guess you could say they were “unremarkable”. The appointment at the school seemed good. I was just happy there wasn’t any blindsides. The medical appointment
was pretty enjoyable actually, we love seeing this Doctor and she was able to help us make some decisions today so I always feel blessed when we leave.
So we had a blindside free day. That’s a good day!
Teachers – you can’t imagine how often parents with needs are blindsided by bad news. It can be as simple as finding out your child is being bullied, not receiving services or are unhappy at school. It can be as major as an unexpected bad medical news. When it is school related It ruins our trust with the school because it’s almost always something that could have been communicated sooner. If we don’t seem excited by your enthusiasm it is because we are waiting for the blindside. It’s sad but true. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it a million more times – communicate! Communicate! Communicate regularly! When the school and teachers are transparent with everything we trust you more, you will prevent the blindside and keep our trust.