March 27, 2014 § 1 Comment
My child has been in public school special education since she was 3 years old. She is now 10. This means we have been dealing with public school special education for 7 years. We will continue dealing with it for at least another 7 years, possibly longer.
Certain days, as I’ve said before, I just want to quit. I just want to say “o.k. whatever – let me know when it’s over.” The passion for my daughter keeps me going. When I think about the amount of advocating I have done in 7 years (and this has probably been the easy part) it’s hard to imagine that I have to keep going.
It’s easy to see how the school can “break” parents. It’s probably similar to how a wild horse feels that has been forced into domestication. They fight back but eventually they “break.”
I think this happens to more families than not. They get “tamed”. They quit. It’s easier to just go
along trusting the decisions that the school makes for their child. I am so very afraid of that happening to me. I can’t picture it but I do think about what it would be like. It sounds a hell of a lot less stressful.
This is why it is so important to have a teacher who is on the “inside” to help advocate for your child, someone to go to bat for them who knows them, someone that doesn’t let you walk this walk alone, someone who is honest about the outcomes and the daily grind, someone who sees your child’s magnificence and magic and doesn’t want it stripped away.
Teachers – help parents, please! We are not the enemy – we have a long road ahead, you can be the teacher whose name we don’t remember in 5 years or the one we forever feel indebted to. Which one do you want to be?