March 11, 2014 § 1 Comment
It’s a double edged sword sitting on both sides of the table in special education.
As a teacher, I am alway trying hard to think about the whole child, the big picture and anticipate what the families may be wanting for their child.
As a parent, I am always trying to anticipate what the school will say about my daughter, why they would say it and what the possible “come back” would be. It’s like of playing a game of chess against myself. It’s torturous.
It’s much harder to be on the parent side than the teacher side.
Today I had to drive into the city so I had a lot of time to think. Too much time! I thought about an upcoming meeting at the school. I tried to figure out all the possible things they might say or might not say, why they would say it and what I wanted to do about each one. It’s the need to be prepared! It’s the anxiety!
It is also taking the time to process in advance what may be discussed while I’m not emotional.
And…. It’s exhausting!
Teachers – communicate with parents ALL THE TIME, so that meetings don’t feel like surprises for everyone. It doesn’t have to be anxiety provoking on either side. A parent shouldn’t feel like they have to “gather ammunition” – if they always know what’s HONESTLY AND TRULY happening consistently, so much stress could be eliminated. Personally, I send home a carbon copy note each and every time I work with a child with details about what we worked on that day and how it went. If I see a child 3x a week, the parent gets 3 notes. It may be overkill but at least I am transparent about what’s happening and it totally helps parents feel supported.